There were so many people at the Bar-B-Que today. . I met people that I did not know, that knew Danny. Even people from out of state came in to eat and tell me they knew Danny and are praying for us....It is all so overwelming.....Danny was a simple man, a country boy, and yet there was alot more to him.........
I remember very little about the funeral....I remember the two songs that were sung by a local gentleman that sings and plays the piano at weddings and funerals...a man that we know well, a man that had just lost his wife a month before....He played and sang , as always, beautifully....the one hymn that Danny wanted; "I Have a Mansion, Just Over The Hill Top" and the one I chose,; "Wind Beneath My Wings"...( because He WAS and STILL IS MY HERO).....
I remember looking in the church over to my right at all the Ga. State Patrol and the out of town Oconee County Deputy that were honorary pallbearers that were seated in the little alcove...I remember seeing that Oconee County Deputy break down and cry like a baby......because she was one of "OUR ADOPTED" ....She has stood the pain of being maced and tazed (so she could feel the same pain she could inflict on criminals)....but I have never seen her cry like she did that Thursday...You see, she loved Danny like a daddy....and me like a mama....
The Ga. State Patrol were Danny's friends...some he went hunting and fishing with...The preacher of our Church that did the eulogy, was also a fishing buddy....Preachers, from all the other local churches were at the service...some having to stand among the many that were packed in the basement....
We had several "adopted " children at the service...Me and danny could only have 2 children, but our children brought home children from their school and somehow or the other, we always ended up "mama" and "pop" to all of them....they all showed up the day Danny died and came over everyday to offer help, comfort, prayers and love.....
Danny was aso a father figure to our many nieces and nephews...teaching them how to fish, how to hunt, how to clean what you shoot or catch.....we would gather them up and have Easter Egg hunts, Trick or treat, movies.... they were the kids we could not have and they love us....Six of the nephews were the pall bearers.
I heard today about how there was not enough room in the church for all the people that came...that the entire basement was full, and the stairwells, and the Sunday school rooms and the Choir pews.....and there were still people standing outside..in the pouring down freezing rain.....and then there were people that had went on to the grave yard to wait....
And it really brings home the fact that....It doesn't matter how much money you have, it doesn't matter how many diplomas you have, it doesn't matter what brand name clothes you wear, nor how perfect your smile is.........My Danny had $40.00 in his billfolder when he died, and a depleted savings account because of all the drugs he had to take....My Danny never made it past the 6th grade, he had to go to work in the cotton mill......but he was the smartest man I have ever known.....My Danny only wore cheap Rustler Jeans, and Walmart tennis shoes that cost $9.00 a pair..and would wear them completely out before he would get anymore......My Danny, bless his heart, did not have ANY TEETH because they pulled them before the open heart surgery...and we were waiting on my tax return to buy him dentures this year, because I had maxed out the credit cards and also our savings on his medications ....I once asked him.." Danny, are you embarrassed to talk and smile at people with no teeth?"...and he replied, " Honey, it is not what is in your mouth, it is what comes out of your mouth ."
What really matters is how you treat others......"DANNY WAS ALWAYS HIMSELF, DANNY WAS NOT FAKE, DANNY ALWAYS HAD A SMILE FOR EVERYONE, DANNY WAS A KIND AND DECENT MAN, DANNY WAS SO BRAVE AND STRONG; NEVER COMPLAINING, AND WE DID NOT REALIZE HE WAS IN SO MUCH PAIN, DANNY NEVER MET A STRANGER, DANNY WAS NEVER TOO TIRED OR HURT TOO MUCH TO HELP ANYONE"....AND THE ONE I LIKE THE MOST....
"DANNY WAS A SPECIAL PERSON"
I knew the day they burried my Danny, that there were a lot of friends and family there with us.....but I was still so much in shock, I did not realize how many it truly was.....I was told that they stopped counting at 799, which did not incude small children....
ALL THE GOLD IN THE WORLD COULD NOT BUY THE PRIDE THAT I HAVE TONIGHT IN MY HEART FOR MY DANNY...He truly knew what LIFE was all about.

33 comments:
Your Danny sounded like such a great guy, I can see why you loved him so ver much. You also are a very special lady. Good luck to you. I'll pray.
Oh baby....this is what is going to heal you......letting yourself feel these things and being able to give them a voice......this journal will mean even more to you a year or two from now when you can look back on these healing words.
I am crying but my tears are of pride...for a man i knew was gentle, loving and good even though i wasnt able to meet him. I love you so....you mean so so much to me.....and what a beautiful tribute to him with this entry. It truly is what is inside a person that makes them golden, not things and not money. Danny was a very rich man indeed because he knew what true happiness and true love was.
XO
lisa jo
What a beautifully heartfelt tribute to your Danny. I hope you keep writing and expressing yourself. Your words are so honest, so full of emotion. I am sure that these expressions will help to heal your broken heart. That's what I am hoping and praying for. Take care, Tina http://journals.aol.com/onemoretina/Ridealongwithme
I agree with lisa jo keep writing it will help you. and you will look back and see one day. Danny was loved by all what a tribute to you:) Praying for you
Deb
Carlene
This is such a beatuiful tribute to Danny. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and in my thoughts.
Sam
Fantastic entry full of love. Keep writing. Danny lives on in your words, as well as in the arms of the Father.
A beautifully written tribute to a man who left a legacy of love and goodwill. We can all hope that when our time comes we will do the same. Hugs and prayers, Carlene.
Holy Father I thank You that you have given her beautiful memories to hold on to during this loss of one so special. I pray Your continued supernatural presence. I ask Dear Lord that You embrace her. Always send the needed encouragement. Comfort and continue to strengthen her with all might according to Your glorious power. Thank You for surrounding her with good friends. In the name of Jesus, in whom we live, move and have our being, I pray. amen
AWWW Carlene, here you go making me cry again. Danny was truly a beautiful person and I know you are the same. You have written a great tribute to him. You have a lot of beautiful memories to help you keep on going. I am still in prayer for you and your family. Love and hugs, Helen
your Danny sounds like a special person. I wish I had met him in person. God Bless him and your family. So many people .... that is nice to think about isn't it? Love and hugs, Sandra
This is a wonderful tribute to him and am so glad you wrote about him and shared all of this. you could see that wonderful man that he was in his smile. My husband too went without teeth for years. He had an accident that totally knocked all his teeth out. His exalways spent the money on other things for three years. So when we met it took a year but we got him some teeth. They are expensive. Some dentists will do them on gratuitiy and Kiwanas do stuff like that for people. BUT I Bet his smile!!!!!!!!!!!! was wonderful. Todd s was no doubt wonderful. Without teeth so I know your dannys was. Its amazing how after the fact you can look back and see this how much he was cared for and how many cared. AL over and I know that is a comfort to you. Im still pray ing for you and the lady whos daughter at age 20 died this month. You guys ar e testimony to us all. DANNY is still a testimony.
Danny surely was a very special person!! and was very loved!!!
Becky
You have beautiful memories. Danny seems like the kind of guy everyone would love. God bless him and give you the strength to carry on. Love, Paula
I bet when Danny got home to Jesus, he heard those words we all crave to hear "well done good and faithful servant". Truly a remarkable man he was. I bet for a long time you will continue to hear of how he touched lives and how special he was
betty
What a wonderful testament to Danny's life and your love for him. Thank you for giving us a glimpse of who Danny was. I won't forget soon. Blessings. Penny http://journals.aol.com/firestormkids04/FromHeretoThere
You have such beautiful, sweet memories. You continue to be in my prayers.
What a wonderful entry ... and what a wonderful person Danny was ... I felt priviledged to read you deepest thought about Danny ... take care !!
~~emma~~
YOUR ENTRY TODAY IS FROM THE LOVING HEART AND TOUCHING TO WE WHOM READ IT. IT IS NEVER EASY TO LOSE A DEAR FRIEND. FAITH IN GOD IS A CONSOLING FACTOR THAT HELPS EASE THE PAIN AS TIME PASSES.
YOUR ENTRY TODAY CAN BE GOOD THERAPY FOR OTHERS THAT MAY HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO READ IT. I CERTAINLY WILL PRINT IT OUT AND SAVE IT.
SAM
An awesome entry - a wonderful tribute to an awesome man. Thank you for posting it.
Hugs, and prayers too
Barb- http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/ITSNOTABOUTLOVE-BUTSURVIVAL
Carlene, oh what a beautiful and loving tribute you wrote today about your Danny. He was truly one special man to have touhed so many people during his life and it showed when so many came to his funeral service to not only honor him and the loving husband, father, friend to all that he was, but to also show their love to you dear. Hard as it is, when you are down, remember always this wonderful showing of love for him and you, it will help you with finding peace in your heart again dear......God bless.....AJ
i have only recently started reading your journal. it touched me so much that i feel the need to keep coming back to see how u r doing. you are such a lucky person to have had someone so special in your life ,many people go a whole lifetime without knowing that kind of love.
treasure your memories they will be with u forever and remember danny will always be watching over u . god bless my prayers are with u always
Carlene, you have written a beautiful tribute. Your words are like diamond dust ... they sparkle and glow with your love. You and Danny have made such an impact on so many of us. We love you, Pennie
Dear Carlene,
whata wonderful tribute
Your husband was a terrific man
hugs,natalie
I wish I had known hi min person.
Beautiful tribute. I know you are so proud, as you should be. Your Danny sounds like the same type of man that my father was. We are so blessed to have had them in our lives. You are still in my prayers. Blessed be !
" Honey, it is not what is in your mouth, it is what comes out of your mouth ."
Yes, you're right, Carlene. Danny was a very smart and wise man.
Oh Carlene......i am here with tears running down my face after reading that. ...... I live across the ocean to you in London.England............ and am wondering why such beautiful words can touch someone who doesn't know you....Why..... i ask myself.
I think it is because of Danny........just reading that makes you realise that money can never ever ever buy ....love.
What you had was just so special. It is just beautiful to read what a humble person Danny was, yet that was why so many people loved him. 799 people and still counting..... that is unbelievable.
I hope that you can draw from the fact that so many people were there to give you strength and courage to carry on with your life in the way Danny would have wished. He truly was a wonderful person.
My prayers are with you and your family
Jayne
I loved this entry Carlene. Your words, Danny's words, the preacher's - what a wonderful person he was and you two truly had what so few people find together. Think of all the hearts and lives he touched in ways that were so important to those he helped, or taught, or listened to. Amazing. I hope each day gets better for you. Remember, Danny is always near, in your children, your town, your friends, even people you didn't realize knew him. The funeral was testimony to the kind of man he was. Hugs ~
Amen...he truly did know what life was about... LOVE. You were and are very lucky. I know that you lost him, but many people never have someone that special in there life....
Be well,
Dawn
Although I know, right now, it probably doesn't ease your pain, you are so lucky to have had someone that special in your life for the years that you had him. Most people never experience that. I am so sorry for your loss, and I know that it is a loss that only time can help you even begin to heal. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Ashlee
Yes Carlene Danny was one special man but you are a very special lady!!!! You were right by his side!!! You are still in my thoughts and prayers!!! I'm glad that you are writing in your journal!!! Keep it up! http://journals.aol.com/shayshaydc/Golfaholic
Sharon:)
I'm reading this with tears in my eyes. I'm thinking I missed out because I never met him. What a great guy! and loved by so many. Stay strong!
Terrie
I knew Danny reminded me of my daddy when I saw the pic you posted saying Danny had died. I've been reading back through your entries and I found this one about Danny and the funeral. My Ronnie(husband) had a huge funeral also. There were around a 1000 who attended. It really makes you know what is important in this life. My husband had made a lot of money during our 30 yrs together. He owned a Bingo hall. We traveled had everything we ever wanted but when it's all over it's not the traveling or the things or the money it's the time and love you share with your mate that matters and nothing more. My daddy was poor, a painter and cotton farmer in Ark. before that. My daddy was so kind and smiled like your Danny. My daddy didn't have teeth either but it was because he just didn't like to wear them. His smile would lite up the universe though. He loved everyone and our house was the party place. My daddy built a cabin on the Tn. River and all of our family and friends would spend every weekend there boating fishing cooking out on the river bank. Now I look back and think how did I end up alone and make it through their lose and find peace and happiness but I have and you will too. The pain will leave and the memories will not give you pain but much joy like I feel talking to you now about them.
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